• Re-defining ‘Home’

    As a kid growing up, my home was always my safe haven. I was perfectly happy to head straight there on the last day of school instead of going to the movies or hanging out at a friends place. My bedroom was my happy place, with it’s cheery sunflower yellow walls and navy blue curtains. (This may sound like a weird combination but it was the color scheme for my cousins wedding and it’s gorgeous!) Nothing has really changed since then. I still love being at home with my family as opposed to going out. If I can stay in my PJs all day reading novels then that day would…

  • The commercialism of Christmas and why I revel in it! 

    I ❤ Christmas. I did as a kid, then went through a stage of teenage indifference, loved it again as an adult and now that I have my own kids I SUPERLOVE it! I know that Christmas is about Jesus. I get that. But the tree, decorations and gifts have nothing to do with Christianity and THOSE are the things I adore. The commercialism can drive people nuts but not me. I want to see fairy lights everywhere!!!! When malls try to outdo each other with their giant Christmas trees it makes my heart sing. All the giant S.A.L.E. boards advertising stuff I know I don’t need makes me smile…

  • Giving of thanks 

    We don’t celebrate Thanksgiving here in S.A. but I like the idea of taking a moment to look back on the year and appreciate the people that made it special. So here’s my belated version of Thanksgiving: This year I am thankful to My husband – for managing all our higher level family worries (income, investments, medical aid, did I mention income? etc) so that I only work myself into a frenzy over the day to day. For not running for the hills when post pregnancy hormones turned me into a tearful basketcase. For being such a hands on dad and borderline worshipping his girls. Also for being my best…

  • Fairytale fails

    I used to love fairytales. The lighthearted ‘everything works out in the end’ bedtime stories. That is, until I had kids of my own. Now I am reading the stories from my own childhood to my kids and I have mixed emotions at the lack of questions. It’s good that I don’t have to come up with creative answers but also bad that they are not questioning the logic of things. True, one is four and the other just turned one but still.  Here’s some of the questions I kinda wish my girls would ask…and then go to their dad for answers while I laugh quietly in the other room:…

  • Let's talk about sex bay-bee 🎶🎶

    That song is so damn catchy!!! Mum and dad, if you’re reading this please stop now 😅😅 ***** If talking about sex makes you feel uncomfortable then you should probably skip over this blog post. However, if you are open minded and view sex as a natural act and not something to be ashamed off then please read on and comment below.  ***** Ok, back to business. My husband and I have a pretty frikken awesome sex life. I can’t even downplay it to sound humble. We set the roof on fire. Our tastes run along the same lines and so we are able to meet each other’s needs and…

  • Finding my Mumtribe

    I have always been a bit of a loner. If given a choice I would much rather be at home than do something social. I have a few very close friends that have been around for almost half my life and I have been quite content. Since having kids though, I feel as if I’m not setting a very good example. While I don’t think there is anything wrong with being an introvert, I also want to show my girls that it’s ok to put yourself out there and meet new people.  When we moved here in April it was quite lonely. I wasn’t entirely happy with the move to…

  • The delicate business of raising a sensitive child

    My eldest is a very sensitive child. She reads facial expression as well as tone and combines that with what a person is saying to come to her understanding. She comprehends concepts that we think are beyond her age until she mentions something in passing. She is wary of people until she gets to know them quite well (which often results in people thinking that she is rude) and if she doesn’t like someone it is instantaneous and it is forever.  There have been a few people in our lives that she has taken an instant dislike to. We don’t force her to give them a second chance because her…

  • Some of the stupid things I said/thought before having kids

    These are in no particular order: The kid will need to fit into our lifestyle, not the other way around (eye roll) Why would we need to eat at Spur? All we need is a feeding chair and we can eat at proper restaurants like we always do (I now have a Spur loyalty card) I’m going to get the baby into a routine as soon as we get home from the hospital. It’s all about consistency (give me a moment, I’m still laughing)  If the baby is drinking too often then just wait longer between feeds so she’s hungry (spoken like someone who has no kids and has never…

  • The magic of a second child

    When I fell pregnant with my youngest I was a confusing mess of emotions which grew deeper and more tangled the closer I got to her birth. It was a combination of happiness, fear, excitement, regret and and about thirty other less dominant emotions.  Happiness: I desperately wanted a second child. Our family, while amazing, felt incomplete and I wanted a sibling or two for my daughter to grow up with. I have an amazing relationship with my own sister. There is a strong bond that gets formed by sharing so much of history. I know this isn’t the case with all siblings of course but I hope our girls…

  • Under construction

    Not too long ago I wrote a post about how desperately I needed a physical makeover. I may be a Stay At Home Mum but I am really tired of looking like the clichè. If you know me personally you know that I like to be organised and have a plan of attack. Since time is no longer on my side I have settled for a To Do List: 1. Book a gel pedicure and eyebrow wax every six weeks  Pretty toes make me happy. I can be in my pajamas all day but as soon as I look down and see neat and colourful nails it lightens my whole mood.…