• The beginning of the end

    I reached a turning point today. It happened while I was at gym because what else is there to do while on a treadmill but re-evaluate your life am I right?? There I was, suffering but enjoying the workout and wondering why I wait so long between gym visits (I didn’t even make my 36 swipes last year. Bye bye 75% discount!) Lately I’v been feeling as if I am spreading myself too thin. By trying to do too much, I have been putting a half assed effort into everything. And that’s not me. I love my life. I have a husband who adores me, two kids who fill my…

  • Week Four – The #OneGrandFamilyChallenge

    This budgeting business is definitely getting easier. It also helps to shop at the same store because I know more or less the cost of groceries at Food Lovers Market now so when I plan the meals I can balance out the cost of ingredients through the week. Here is my Meal Plan for Week 4 I spent a total of R991,10 on groceries today and this is what it looked like You really can get a TON of fresh produce and ingredients for R1,000. All it takes is about half an hour of planning a week. Here’s is a list of what I bought: In case you missed it,…

  • Loaded Mac and Cheese

    Week Three Recap of the #OneGrandFamilyChallenge

    I can (almost) confidently say that meal planning is now a habit for me. I love having a list of what to cook instead of standing in front of the fridge and tying to come up with a balanced meal every day. Besides saving money, this whole process is really saving me time. If you ignore the time it takes to take pics and upload it all to social media that is, haha! Here’s a recap of the weeks meals: Day 15 – Monday – Lentil & Mushroom Quesadillas This was the first time I have ever cooked with lentils and I really don’t know why! The Quesadillas were delicious.…

  • My first experience with a Cyber Bully

    I had my very first negative social media experience on Friday. It happened out of the blue and caught me quite unawares. Even though it hasn’t upset me (that much), it has made me think a bit on how easy it is to bully somebody on social media. First some background I have been working on the #OneGrandFamilyChallenge since the beginning of May. Every week I meal plan and budget for all my families food needs (meals/lunchboxes/snacks/treats) and then each night I post of pic of what I made for dinner. This is done on Instagram and Facebook with an ingredient picture followed by the completed meal pic. There is…

  • An open letter to my mum in anticipation of Mother’s Day

    I am not an emotionally demonstrative person. For me personally, it is much easier to show someone how I feel through my actions as opposed to my words. However, if anyone deserves a public display of affection, it’s my mum. So I will attempt to put into words what I know I could never articulate in person. Mum, this is for you… I see you You have always been Mum. With the blindness and self centeredness of a child, I wasn’t truly able to see you as more than my parent until I myself became a mother. Now I see you; as a woman with a husband that you love…

  • My one year old’s shoe fetish

    My youngest is almost a year and a half. That’s still really teeny tiny in non-scientific baby terms, yet she has a shoe obsession that outshines anyone I have ever known, except my mum (so sad that we don’t wear the same size!) and a friend from campus. It’s not that she has a vast quantity of shoes, because she doesn’t. I intentionally keep her shoes to an absolute max of 5 at a time because babies grow so quickly that she only wears her shoes for a few months before they need to be replaced. For her it is a deep love for shoes of any shape and size.…

  • A Day in the Life of a Mum of 5

    I met Jacqui through a blogging group last year. She had recently moved back to South Africa after a two year stint in Michigan. It was so refreshing to chat to someone who had such positive things to say about raising a family in SA when so many people I know are desperate to leave. 26 hrs travel time, 18 hrs flight time and 5 kids 😴… Home safe and sound … What troopers these kids are … They were absolute stars ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A post shared by Jacqui Bester (@onemessymama) on Jun 10, 2017 at 1:42am PDT She joined us for a play group with her two girls and the…

  • Some of the stupid things I said/thought before having kids

    These are in no particular order: The kid will need to fit into our lifestyle, not the other way around (eye roll) Why would we need to eat at Spur? All we need is a feeding chair and we can eat at proper restaurants like we always do (I now have a Spur loyalty card) I’m going to get the baby into a routine as soon as we get home from the hospital. It’s all about consistency (give me a moment, I’m still laughing)  If the baby is drinking too often then just wait longer between feeds so she’s hungry (spoken like someone who has no kids and has never…

  • How switching off the TV gave us our darling daughter back

       Our television has been one of my closest companions and best babysitters for the past three years. When A was just born and J went back to work (after a month at home), I watched Sopranos from start to finish. That’s SIX seasons! Add in a few seasons of Grimm, White Collar, Suits and Lie to me and you get a clear idea of what my life was like. For four months A wouldn’t nap for longer than 20 minutes during the day unless I carried her. And her internal clock only registered ‘bedtime’ as 6am for the loooooooooooongest time.  So I had a lot of time on my…